Thanks for this article - it reminds me of the circumstances surrounding my grandmother's death. It was a very long and slow decline into Alzheimers and by the time death arrived we were all exhausted from the waiting. It was 10 years waiting for the inevitable. The celebration of her life was marked (overshadowed) by these final years; an earlier celebration would have marked her living years very differently. Had this tradition been available and acceptable for our family a more honouring celebration could have done. Their was grieving right throughout those alzheimers years and it was grief that could not be expressed or shared or acknowledged openly or healthily.