Thanks for sharing your story and also your suggestion ,Heather. Your grandmother sounds amazing...and what an extraordinary experience to have death modeled so well. I wonder whether schools would be able to teach this topic without permission from parents as many parents and families would have different perspectives depending on their religious and cultural traditions and beliefs?
Thanks for your comment, Leigh. There's lots in there, and I think I agree with all you've said. So true, that the different ''moments'' have different purposes...the pre-death positive appreciation is definitely for the person while anything post-death is for those grieving and bereaved. I also agree one can't replace the other. That's where I get stuck though, of trying to imagine something different. Other posts have spoken about creating a type of memorial of stones, each stone representing a significant aspect of their loved one's life, and a labyrinth used for reflection and perhaps symbolic of the progression experienced by the person and family. Any other ideas that require greater services and more skilled personnel able to assist with palliative care or similar, would necessarily require an insertion of funds. However funding is already limited and becoming more so. At this stage, I can't see serious illness, dying and death being treated with such increased priority that governments or even philanthropists would provide the level of funding needed to enable a complete change of system. As you say, the reality is that it's different for everyone. Cheers