Depending on the age and preferences of the student, various avenues can be pursued in order to find an older person to mentor.
- One: Students can reach out to one of MM's affiliated organizations (e.g. veterans societies, homes for the elderly, church groups) to look for a mentorship match or placement. This option is ideal for students who are younger, and may not be able to set up mentorship meetings independently (e.g. for safety reasons). This option is also helpful for students looking for a no-fuss, no-complications mentorship match. Moreover, it is great for older people who can be matched with a mentor without having to join an online or digital community, as many older people either to not have access or knowledge regarding these electronic forums.
- Second: Students can utilize the MM App to look for a mentorship match. Both students and older people can join, filling in preferences and limited criteria (e.g. interests, hobbies) to ensure the most effective and productive match. This option provides a more tailored experience (e.g. matches an older person who loves to read classic novels with a student who is majoring in English); however, it assumes that the older person has access to the app and is comfortable using it. This option is also more time intensive.
- Third: Students can participate in group activities arranged by the chapter. For example, a group of students can attend “game night” or “movie night” at a nursing home. This option may be particularly suitable for students who are shy or nervous about forming a one-on-one mentor relationship. It is ideal for first time mentors looking to get their feet wet.
APPEAL TO OLDER ADULTS: It is important to note that MM's name and mission is empowering for older people as it acknowledges the reality that the older and younger can serve in a mentorship that is mutually beneficial. Older people and younger people have much to teach other, and the most beneficial relationships will enable this mutual sharing.
BENEFITS OF A NETWORK MODEL: It is important for the youth of today to feel supported in everything they do. MM enables students to feel like they are part of a bigger community, a community of students from different schools who can both learn from each other, innovate together, and build the MM brand.
EXAMPLE OF SIMILAR (and successful) MODELS:
- Peace by PEACE
- Free the Children
ATTRACTION: Extrinsic motivation is an important consideration. Being a part of MM allows students to earn their MM certificate (becoming a trained mentor), an accomplishment that can be included on any resume or job application. It also allows students to be part of a legitimate organization that can be listed under their extra-curricular involvement. Over time and in the long run, there may be an opportunity to develop an online reward system through the MM app.
The MM curriculum should be designed to both inform and empower students, helping them to feel more comfortable in their role as a mentor. Much of the feedback I have received, along with the helpful comments below, indicates that students often feel uneasy or confused about their position as a mentor. They tend to think in a linear and confined way, seeing mentorship in a formal capacity, about providing assistance and advice. This can seem overwhelming, especially for young students. The MM curriculum will help students understand basic questions about mentorship and prepare them for their new (and exciting) role as a mentor. As I get more feedback (please help!) I will continue to refine.
- What is a mentor?
- --> A mentor is like a friend, a buddy. Just like your friends, a mentor does not need to be wiser or more knowledgeable than their mentee. Mentors are around for camaraderie, to talk through ideas, to play games, to share stories and experiences, and to have fun. There are no strict rules about what a mentorship relationship should look like. It can take many forms. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to go about building a relationship.
- How do you build a relationship with an older adult?
- --> Believe it or not, students can have a lot in common with older adults. Just because you are different ages does not mean you will not have things to talk about. Maybe you have travelled to the same places or studied the same subjects. Even better, maybe you have travelled to different places or studied different subjects – then you can learn from each other! Like in any new relationship, start by asking questions and getting to know each other. Share stories, share questions. You will be surprised what happens once you open up!
- Write down three stories you can share. Share them with a friend.
- Write down three pieces of advice you would give a new friend (about anything!). Next time you meet someone new, share one piece of advice.
- Write down three open-ended questions you can ask to get to know a person better. For example, you can ask: what is your favourite book and why?
- Retirement centres
- Nursing homes
- Churches and community centres