Pay attention to your kids and don't let innocent little things slide if they physically or emotionally hurt other people...
The other day, my eight-year old son and his friend were casually talking about an informal "club" which they have at school. Their "club" is simply a group of eight-year old kids who have lunch together and play during recess. Much to my surprise, I discovered that they have an informal challenge which hopeful members must complete prior to gaining membership.
My five year old wanted to join this "club."
His brother said that he could join if he told any girl in his class that he had a crush on her. His friend said that he could join if he kicked a girl in the shin.
As I was sitting within earshot, I immediately walked over to the boys and explained the following.
1. I think that your membershipo requirements are inappropriate as they will certainly hurt people.
2. How would you feel if a stranger kicked you in the leg? Would you feel hurt, or bullied? Would you think that someone was out to get you?
3. How would you feel if a classmate told you she had a crush on you only to find out later tht she was joking? Would you feel humiliated, sad, or even picked on?
My point is that even well-loved and decent kids will go astray and potentially cause harm to others if they are not monitored and taught appropriate behavior from a very young age.