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Five by Five - Anonymous style meetings for women

"I understand you perfectly"

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It is unfortunate that there is so much shame associated with discussing abuse. What if we could create safe anonymous community-run groups to help women deal with and avoid future abuse?

The term comes from old radio slang. When communicating over radio, the operator would report the strength and clarity of the signal on a scale of 1 to 5 each. "Five by five", by extension, has come to mean " I understand you perfectly" in situations other than radio communication. 
  • Meet to talk freely about what happened
  • Conduct informal counseling sessions
  • Help each other
  • Mask the group to avoid shame by calling it something else cooking/knitting/sewing/etc
  • Learn something such as self-defense
  • Build close ties with those who empathize with you
  • Talk about areas/locations to avoid
This idea is a work in progress...please chime in with your thoughts. Thanks!
 

Update:

Where will women meet? 
An initial meeting place could be an area frequented by women, e.g.: places of worship. Most places have prayer rooms or open space to accommodate larger crowds. This AA style meeting could be masked by calling it a prayer group or a hobby class. The group is facilitated by a mentor.

What will they dicsuss?
This is a great opportunity to collaborate with Kandu 
  • This group creates a safety net for women to talk about abuse and anything related to her wellbeing. 
  • Leverage the analogy of signal strengths to facilitate conversation e.g.: 1 = I don’t understand what you mean; 5 = I understand you perfectly.
A quick scenario:
Abha is a victim of domestic violence, and is narrating her experience to the group. As she finishes her story, three other women hold up a number “5” card. This means they understand Abha perfectly, and have possibly been in a similar situation. The group mentor asks if they would like to share their experiences, leading into a conversation about how to handle such situations should they recur. In the back, another lady holds up a # ”2” card. She is not a victim and does not understand domestic violence. This is a good opportunity for the mentor and Abha to educate her about the possible signs leading upto domestic violence.

How will they keep connected?
They would keep connected via text messaging, but some sort of code must be established to ensure safety. In addition, they could keep in touch through their mentor. This is meant to be an anonymous group, but women could volunteer to share their first name.

 

Explain your idea in one sentence.

What if we could create safe anonymous community-run groups to help women deal with and avoid future abuse.

What is the need you are trying to solve?

Empathy.

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Photo of jyotirmaya mahapatra
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This surely will have some impact looking at the long run. It will be interesting to see how you plan to facilitate such interactions.
You might want to read about Meena Keshwar. The entire idea of RAWA started with such anonymous meetings during the time of Russian & Taliban resistance. http://www.rawa.org/

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Hi Priyanka, I like this Idea!

Please check this idea
http://www.openideo.com/challenge/womens-safety/ideas/kandu-an-exploration-in-quality-family-planning-and-reproductive-healthcare-education-in-iran.

Kandu aims increase awareness of women about sexual health based on smart phones as anonymous because of behavior of Iranian women.
I like the idea using radio to communicate, In my research youth and young women in Iran don't use that much radio but they use smart phones more that anything else. thats why I was focus on smart phones. but now I would like to make the Kandu more global.

We could collaborate and complement each other ideas.

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Photo of Priyanka Kodikal
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Sounds great, Bahar! I've read your idea and really like it. I've used 5x5 radio communication only as an analogy. I'd love to collaborate with you on this. I'm working on updating this concept to flesh out some more specifics and should have a revised version by the weekend.

If you have any thoughts/ideas, do let me know! Thanks!

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Hi Priyanka! Wuhuuu you are on the challenge! I love the idea!

You know, I come from Turkey and yet I have no friend wearing a Muslim headscarf. I am always curious about these women's thoughts, beliefs and lifestyle, but I have absolutely no clue. Through the five by five meetings, I think you can address a need to connect women from different social/economic backgrounds.

As you might have seen, I am a Community Prototyper during the challenge, so let's also generate some questions about the concept - How will women connect, where will they meet, what will they dicsuss, how will they keep connected - and select one to answer with a prototype.

Another possibility to extend could be 'Google Hangout' sessions where women from different parts of the world could connect.

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Priyanka,

great idea as I think the sharing of experiences and realization that you're not alone is key. This is something that struck me when I watched the video about the shouting back program: http://www.openideo.com/challenge/womens-safety/research/shouting-back-and-people-listen

I like your idea that it can be labelled as something else. It reminds me Cansus' post about the free laundries: http://www.openideo.com/challenge/womens-safety/research/free-public-laundries-provide-a-space-for-women-to-socialize
Women explained that this was a great "cover story": they had to go and do the laundry but it provided them a great opportunity to share experiences.

I like the point you made Cansu of using these meetings also as a way to share experiences across communities.

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Hi again, you might also check this other idea and see how to connect and maybe see if you could prototype with them: http://www.openideo.com/challenge/womens-safety/ideas/mama-shwari-cradle-of-women-violence-prevention

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Priyanka, you might want to check this idea http://www.openideo.com/challenge/womens-safety/ideas/kandu-an-exploration-in-quality-family-planning-and-reproductive-healthcare-education-in-iran
I can see a potential way to collaborate as the 2 ideas seem to me complementary.

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Hi Cansu! I'm totally excited to be contributing to this challenge, and congrats on being selected as the community prototyper!
You bring up some good questions, which I feel will help me advance this idea. I hope to update this concept soon to include more specifics. If you have suggestions, do let me know!

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Hi Anne-Laure! Thank you for you feedback and comments! I really like your suggestion in terms of prototyping with mama-swari and kandu. I'll surely look into that. Also, i'm working on an updated version with more specifics. I hope to have it soon.

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Great! Looking forward to the next iteration.