The term comes from old radio slang. When communicating over radio, the operator would report the strength and clarity of the signal on a scale of 1 to 5 each. "Five by five", by extension, has come to mean " I understand you perfectly" in situations other than radio communication.
- Meet to talk freely about what happened
- Conduct informal counseling sessions
- Help each other
- Mask the group to avoid shame by calling it something else cooking/knitting/sewing/etc
- Learn something such as self-defense
- Build close ties with those who empathize with you
- Talk about areas/locations to avoid
Where will women meet?
An initial meeting place could be an area frequented by women, e.g.: places of worship. Most places have prayer rooms or open space to accommodate larger crowds. This AA style meeting could be masked by calling it a prayer group or a hobby class. The group is facilitated by a mentor.
What will they dicsuss?
This is a great opportunity to collaborate with Kandu
- This group creates a safety net for women to talk about abuse and anything related to her wellbeing.
- Leverage the analogy of signal strengths to facilitate conversation e.g.: 1 = I don’t understand what you mean; 5 = I understand you perfectly.
Abha is a victim of domestic violence, and is narrating her experience to the group. As she finishes her story, three other women hold up a number “5” card. This means they understand Abha perfectly, and have possibly been in a similar situation. The group mentor asks if they would like to share their experiences, leading into a conversation about how to handle such situations should they recur. In the back, another lady holds up a # ”2” card. She is not a victim and does not understand domestic violence. This is a good opportunity for the mentor and Abha to educate her about the possible signs leading upto domestic violence.
How will they keep connected?
They would keep connected via text messaging, but some sort of code must be established to ensure safety. In addition, they could keep in touch through their mentor. This is meant to be an anonymous group, but women could volunteer to share their first name.