"Mom, when you're not here anymore where shall I travel to as a remembering mom trip?"
"Granny, when you're not here anymore what shall I cook as a remembering grandma meal?
"Dad, when you're not here anymore what shall I read as a remembering dad book?
When loved ones are gone we often turn to moments or experiences that remind us of them for solace and as a way to feel connected to them. These moments are often our interpretation of what they would want or what reminds us of them.
This idea is to have these conversations before we, or those in our lives pass on. This would heighten that feeling of 'connectiveness after death' as we would know that this is what our loved ones would want us to be doing when we need to feel like they are still with us in some way. It's a more 'active' way of remembering and comfort.
Additionally - we are usually we are asked:
"What do we want to pass along? What legacy? What values?"
This may also be a way for your loved ones to encourage those that are still living to have experiences that they may not normally seek and that may be cathartic.
This may also be a way to reduce the stigma of speaking about death negatively since the conversation is a more 'positive' and accepting outlook on how to deal with death. Perhaps this can then lead to deeper more emotional conversations.
The idea can be expanded on by asking who would you like me to turn to or share certain experiences with in various moments in life (as with the "Council of Friends" - A take on Bruce Feiler's "The council of Dads" idea by Pearl Sequoia).