Where do I want to be when I'm dying.
This is not the first time this question has been asked.
When asking staff would you have this conversation with an individual who is palliative, many back away as the question is raised. "Is it appropriate to be this upfront", " Shouldnt we wait till the end stage". "Shouldn't we just be discussing symptoms and actions required".
What are we as a society so frightened about?
If we consider choice early on, all involved in this journey can plan for this to be achieved. Why are we so afraid of such a normal process in the life journey? What would happen if we choose to die underneath our favourite tree.
One must consider where health and medicine has moved too in our society when classifying " a normal death". Health in the mainstream surrounds cure, we can all live longer, death remains the hard/ taboo subject in many cultures, so our children may never experience this until the bury their parents. In westernised culture, we have removed the experience from the cup of tea in the kitchen discussion to the a medicalised environment surrounding symptoms and actions.
Can we ask the questions of the individuals, clients, residents we care for. Can this be asked in hospitals, nursing homes, in the community.
What stops us from achieving their choices?
Naivety surrounding resource implications has not been ignored, but if we were too imagine, where could we be.