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Assisted Suicide & End-of-Life Coaching

In Switzerland assisted suicide is legal. How people reflect upon this option and how end-of-life coaching could add something needed.

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Who is your idea designed for and how does it reimagine the end-of-life experience?

People and their loved ones who choose or consider assisted suicide. It reimagines the end-of-life experience by proposing end-of-life coaching especially for those considering assisted suicide as an option.

I have been involved with several conversations about death and dying in the last year, specifically in relation to assisted suicide and palliative care. In Switzerland assisted suicide is legal and comes out of the Swiss protection of an individual’s right to decide for oneself what is right at the end of life. So, assisted suicide is one of the elements of such conversations in Switzerland.  Some people from countries where this is not legal find it an important part of the death and dying options.

The Swiss cultural perspective about the right to decide for oneself is reflected in the number of non-assisted suicides or choices to end life in Switzerland, something I experienced in my own neighbourhood. The first year and a half after I moved to Switzerland from the US I experienced five older adults who decided to end their life by not eating, hanging themselves, jumping in front of the train or shooting themselves in the head.  I lived within 500 meters of 3 of these cases and so was quite deeply shocked by the number of people who chose to die on my street plus the way 3 of these people chose to die.  I asked the questions, why did these people not use the legal assisted suicide services for a less violent death and what led them to feel they needed to end their lives? I found no real answers but these realisations/ideas: Only one situation was connected with depression - the others were all clear-headed choices.  I also wondered if the legality of assisted suicide encouraged more people to take their lives but not to deeply reflect upon their choice or discuss the options with someone.  

The top concerns I heard the discussions of which I was a part:

  • The desire to have control over when the right time is to go, especially in regards to physical suffering.
  • The motivation to become a member of one of the Swiss organisations – it is a form of “insurance” in the case that one gets a terminal illness, which might cause great physical suffering.
  • A concern that there are many “Suicide tourists” who come to Switzerland to die.
  • The shock to those who are not informed that their loved one, neighbour or friend has engaged assisted suicide.
  • The lack of support and understanding for those around the person who has chosen to use assisted suicide. The organisations or “businesses” are serving their “customers” not the others. During and after the death of the person who has chosen to use assisted suicide loved ones are not supported.  The are also not prepared for the situation.
  • Concern that the cost of being old and the most expensive last two years of life (research shows that the last two years are most expensive) “forces” older people to consider and follow through with ending their lives to save the inheritance that their offspring / family would otherwise not receive.

How can we better support and prepare for the dying process so that when someone who decides that they are really ready to end their life they do so without it being a question of money/inheritance and they do so having been able to reflect upon their fear of loss of control.  How can we do better at supporting those who are left behind, especially when they are in the room where the person is dying or has died.

My idea is to provide end-of-life coaching especially as part of the investigation of and application for assisted suicide.  Based upon the themes raised in the conversations of which I was a part such coaching should at least include responses to the questions of inheritance, our culture of control and the accompanying loved ones.

Inheritance:End-of-life coaching can help people identify their life values: as Parker Palmer says, let your life tell you what your values are vs tell your life what your values are.  Our values are the basis for understanding the role and form and method of inheritance that we want. Identifying a person’s values as a basis for defining inheritance – so that inheritance can be gestalted to match a person’s values vs being determined by money as the highest value.

End-of-life coaching can help people identify non-financial forms of inheritance which they have provided and can provide.

Control:End-of-life coaching can help people reflect upon their concern about loss of control. This to include reflecting upon times that the lack of control, ie. Serendipity or accident or failure created new, valuable and positive life changing opportunities.  Using real stories of people who found meaning in their dying process even through pain, loss of control and facing the unknown.

Support of Loved Ones: End-of-life coaching can help people reflect upon how they can create support for those who would accompany them in the actual assisted suicide process.  This includes being informed about what actually happens right after you have died.  Further, although many people say they are not religious, they are spiritual or they are human and thus need something to help make sense of and ritually recognise the actual death moment.  Thus, helping people reflect upon the role of death, dying or closure rituals in different traditions as a basis for discussion with those who will be left behind and accompany the person choosing to end their life.  Helping to gestalt and performing end-of-life assisted suicide death rituals that are custom made for the accompanying loved ones and the person who has chosen to die.

What early, lightweight experiment might you try out in your own community to find out if the idea will meet your expectations?

Host a workshop / presentation on assisted suicide specifically focused on the issues of inheritance, control and loved ones who accompany those who choose to die with assisted suicide and are left behind.

What skills, input or guidance from the OpenIDEO community would be most helpful in building out or refining your idea?

How could an end-of-life-coach and the three areas (Inheritance, control and accompanying loved ones) be used in other contexts (institutions, communities, discussions) besides the assisted suicide context?

Tell us about your work experience:

I'm a theologian & do consulting with Swiss Catholic church boards, lead a community entrepreneurship project, research connections btwn national identity & architectural philos'y, lead the renewal process for a non-profit social ethics institute.

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I really appreciate the thought and reflection behind your idea. My father (an 81 year old retired psychologist) and I talked about the desire and need to be able to decide when enough is enough. He believes we each need the option and was concerned about how we systematically help people think through the decision and ensure it is a clear-headed choice. Coaching seems like a very good tool to help with that, and the extension to include the community is great. Something to consider, that came from my father: the need for a multi-disciplinary  team (medical, psychology, spiritual, etc.) that works with the person and the family so the situation and options can be seen clearly. 

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Christina, you'll be interested in checking out Jim's idea Mortality Coach . I think you'll see some synergy between your idea and Jim's post on on end-of-life coaching and supporting loved ones:)

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Thanks Shane!

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Jim and Jim's Dad, I see we 3 have very similar ideas, cool! 

The multi-disciplinary aspect is really a valuable input.  When I interned as a hospital chaplain in San Francisco at the beginning of HIV, we worked exactly like this as an interdisciplinary team: doctors, nurses, social workers, chaplain.

Both of our ideas are "housed" outside of an institution at the moment, so I ask us, what is the actual path of connection?  How are people naturally led to our mortality / end-of-life coaches?  In your case the theme could naturally occur in an existing coaching relationship, but how would people find your coach if they were just diagnosed with cancer or their loved one unexpectedly died?

There is a lot of discussion right now in retirement homes and older adult communities here in Switzerland (CH) as to whether or not to allow assisted suicide (AS) organisations into their institutions. Maybe here in CH such a coach could make visits vs the AS organisations.

The idea of providing a method for existing coaches to add to their repertoire is also great!  What would you include?  Do you know about the discipline of spiritual direction?  This whole form of coaching is oriented actually towards your idea. Perhaps you could develop a method based upon spiritual direction training around mortality or integrate existing spiritual direction training.  Most theology students also study death and dying, so perhaps looking at the best of that curriculum or integrating into the existing offerings is another direction.


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Hi Christina,

Our ideas are very closely related, which is neat to see, and I think they are great complements. I envisioned my coaching idea as targeted to people in their "ordinary" lives rather than at the end of life experience. I believe the coaching would apply at the end of life too but my goal was to introduce another way of thinking in our everyday lives that leads to a more rewarding life and thereby easier end of life. So, I haven't been focused on the question of how to get coaches to people when they get a diagnosis or for other reasons reach the point that they enter the end of life experience.

I haven't dug into the curriculum questions yet. Thanks for the pointer to spiritual direction training. That sounds like a great place to get started with the details of what the coaching might look like.


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