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Hot Young Widows Club

online grief community: a support group but waaaay better.

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Who is your idea designed for and how does it reimagine the end-of-life experience?

i'm in a private facebook group for young widows, and it's THE BEST. (i hear it's even better for young widows whose partner died by suicide -- grief is isolating enough, but when it's rare & stigmatized & hard to talk about, it can be even worse). social media is AMAZING for grief!! i've really seen in bring out the best in strangers who now feel like sisters. people are kind, raw, hilarious, loving and real. a virtual, asynchronous, private, intimate, forever support group. can this be scaled?

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What skills, input or guidance from the OpenIDEO community would be most helpful in building out or refining your idea?

the real hot young widows club (a private facebook group open to anyone who's lost their person) is REALLY thriving and helping people. it's run by 2 people for free on facebook. that seems scalable!! ("the dinner party" is another amazing example, but more resource-intensive.) right?? :)

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hi joanna! yes, people definitely share stories in the group, in particular questions or experiences they feel they couldn't share elsewhere. things like "has anyone else here thought about changing your last name back to your maiden name?" or sharing -- and sending support about -- a regret about the time before or after husband/partner's death, or calls for advice about relating to your late husband/partner's family, etc. etc... it's intimate and real. there's not a formal in-person part, but there was a meetup in one city after some members figured out they lived in the same place, and some pairs of people have met in person and posted pics. the founder is nora mcinerny purmort, whose husband died of brain cancer in 2014 -- she's a combo of that funny and sad realness.

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Really neat example of the different shapes support can take, Lucy. Thanks for posting. I'd love to hear more about what the interactions are like - do people share their stories in the Facebook group? Are there in-person opportunities? What do you know about the two people who run it? Might they be interested in joining this convo on OpenIDEO?

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